跟著孩子走

近來看到有些言論叫大家跟著孩子走。

明明孩子比我們成年人人生經驗少，知識，能力，經濟等等都不及，為甚麼要跟著孩子走？

是的，孩子在很多事情上不及成年人。思想看似幼稚。

但有一點，很重要的一點我們要知道：成年人活在今天，孩子是活在未來。

成年人看到今的景況，孩子看到未來。成年人看到今天的問題，而孩子看到的是未來的問題。

就一個例，我小時候已經知道地球污染的問題，我走上環保的路。但當時的成年人都不以為意。地球這麼大，能源那麼多，談甚麼污染？好好地搵多個錢啦，細路！

如果當年的成年人肯好好地聽我們這一班孩子，今天，我們便不要收拾今天地球這個垃圾崗，不需要巴黎公約。

活在未來的孩子清楚知道他們將會面對甚麼樣的世界，跟著孩子走，我們才能真正的面對問題，作出預防性的工作，而不是現在的修修補補工作。

Merry Christmas ?

對於一個非基督徒而言, 你為乜要慶祝聖誕節?耶穌出世關你乜事?就算信同一個上帝既 Muslin and Jews, 佢地都唔慶祝聖誕家啦. 

無錯, 你係多咗兩日假期, 講句 Happy Holiday (快樂假期) 同講句 good morning 一樣咪得啦.

賢士

今日，睇開古文見到個＂賢＂字，當然係指一Ｄ好叻，好有德行既人。通常Ｄ古文都會話見到賢士要尊重之餘又要禮待任用。

話時話古時人讀書少，有知識，有德行既就更少，因此，見到賢士真係唔應該放過。我地反觀現在，讀書人就非常之多，但係做得到野既人就少之又少，可以分憂獻計就真係萬中無一。所以，無論古人定現代人，搵到＂賢＂士就要好好留佢係身邊重用佢。

以前講＂賢＂，現代簡單一句，做到野既人。

老豆，你可以死得？

有一日，朋友問，佢阿媽問佢：想唔想阿媽長命Ｄ？
呢個問題佢阿媽已經問晒所有仔女。
我問佢點答？
佢話：阿媽，如果你活得開心我祝你長命百歲。
咁我話：咁你阿媽活我開唔開心丫？
唔開心
但係老人家話活得唔開心都可以有唔同意思。第一，佢可能希望多Ｄ attension，所以就成日話唔開心等Ｄ仔女多Ｄ關心佢，但其實佢唔係真係咁唔開心。第二，佢可能真係唔開心。
我相信阿媽真係唔開心，因為佢老，好多能力漸漸失去，所以我發覺佢真係唔開心。
就你咁講，你阿媽真係唔開心，而你又答你阿媽，如果你活得開心就祝佢長命百歲，咁你積係話比你阿媽知佢而家可以死得。
朋友無言.........


但我自己又係度諗，上年我返香港，老豆急病入醫院做手術。手術前佢透過阿嬸話佢好介懷我小時候佢比唔到一個幸福既家庭比我。（我諗佢怕死，因為佢都有講過擔心手術唔成功）
結果我就走去同老豆講，我細個既經歷同一般人唔同，唔係好開心，但呢Ｄ野，已經係過去，我而家唔會覺得唔開心，反而我覺得我經歷咗一Ｄ一般人無法經歷既事情。我已經放開咗，我叫我老豆都放開。
當時，我希望話比老豆知，唔好介懷，唔好有野係個心度，安心去做手術。而家諗返，咪等如同老豆講：你可以死得，因為你都無 unfinished business。

學術用書

搬屋發現自己原來有好多書，其中有好多好多係學術用書。但係，我相信，絕大部分既學術書係唔會再睇。理由一字咁淺，大學生又點會去溫小學書呢？

同一道理，呢批大學用書，已經唔再幫到我乜嘢，除咗比我作懷念之外。反而，公仔書我還會翻看，而家睇返都係會笑，正！

今日，有個大學教授係公司講學，我聽咗一陣就走人。理由，佢咪一本大學書。

火紅的心

青年人都有一果火紅的心，事事追求完美，因為他們眼界未開，見得世面少。

成年人都圓融滑頭，事事妥協，因為他們認清世態，見到世面。

所以成年人都喜歡向青年人講一個真實話：大了你就會明白。

縱使是真話，是否帶了點悲涼？

時間的謎思

事情的發展不是跟進時間，而是事件的次序。

一件工程的完成並不是跟隨時間而是一步步的事工。

一件工程不是三個月完成，而是完成事工一，二，三，四........直至最後一個事工。

就如讀書一樣，由一年級，二年級...小學...中學...大學...。如果你一年級的程度也沒有，硬要你去到讀二年級或更高也是浪費時間和精神。但事實上，誰可以肯定你一年內可以完成一年級的課程？有些人用了比一般人多的時間去讀小學，但一入大學就就可以用最短既時間完成博士課程。
 
時間運用於事情上只是一個估計約數而不是一個肯定數亦不可用來作控制因素。

50歲生日的啟悟

今天是五十歲生日，在車上聽著李怡講書評

其中一個故事的核心是：快樂是要問自己今天擁有了甚麼，而不是還想要甚麼。

是啊，事實上這五十多年來，我已經擁有了很多。除了物質的還有非物質的，當然以非物質的更為寶貴。

擁有的事情是不需要與別人比，自己數數就知道。我真的擁有了很多，很多。我應該快樂，現在的我要學懂去欣賞我的快樂，不要被快樂白白地被放在一邊，被遺忘掉。

天堂

人人都想上天堂，琴日就問咗個朋友（佢係教徒）係天堂有乜野做？

佢想咗一陣我就加口：咁應該好多人世間既野都做得，好似打機，講粗口啦...。
佢問當然唔可以啦。
咁積係可以做乜？其實有好多野亦都唔使做，好似搵食咁。
佢想多幾想就話，唱歌（聖詩），崇拜咁啦。
無哪？
都無乜特別野好做。
咁咪好悶？
唔悶家。
我話點會唔悶？傾偈都唔可以講衰野。

追求完美

人在追求完美當中虛耗了大部分。

追求
完美的制度
完美的環境
完美的國家
完美的家庭
完美的伴侶
完美的子女
完美的朋友
完美的工作
完美的學歷
完美的屋
完美的車
完美的..........
完美的一切，一切

這種追求看似合理，及令人覺得有理想。（女士們很喜歡有理想的男士啊！）

但事實上，追求完美的可能性及代價是多少？

在一個不完美的世界去追求完美是可能的嗎？在污水中找淨水是可能的嗎？我們活在人世間，並不是天堂。把人世界變成天堂，可能的嗎？在人類歷史中我們看到有完美的一刻嗎？

就當可以吧，代價呢？要用多少來換取＂完美＂或者貼近完美？

在人世間中要追求的並不是完美，而是學懂欣賞萬事萬物。

有人學懂萬物皆美，因此不需要追求美，因為美就在你面前，只是你看不看到美。

有人學懂世上沒有美與不美，再不分辨美與不美，跳出美與不美的兩極中。

還要談完美嗎？不要再費時啦。

Dream(s)

Everyone have dreams, either talk about it (on lips only) or work on it.

What is your dreams?

Are they still on your lips or you already are working on it?

P.S. nothing in this world can be done without paying effort (big or small) for it.

Bully

I have tear in my eyes when I watch this short film

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/bullying-social-experiment-video-captures-response-of-passers-by-in-us-a6707401.html

This short film not only telling me human have hope, but also telling me the best way to handle bully: we use love to take care the being bullied but not bullying the bully. Let the bully knows what is love and there is love in our world.

Love is what this world need but not punishment

為何這麼認真?

大家都知，人死後甚麼也帶不走。
你以為安排好的亦未必如你所願。
你的名聲你已經聽不到。當然包括了罵名。

那，現在的你幹嗎那麼認真？

不認真及認真是兩極，你，站在兩極中的那一點上？

膠劇與演技

大台有膠劇係人都知。
大姐大哥演技一流，一埋位就識拍，交到戲係人都知。

膠劇劇本個個一樣，唔怪之得，大哥大姐一埋位就比到表情拍到戲。個表情日日做幾次。咁，算唔算好戲？

婦解對男人的變化

婦解，都唔知係幾時既事。總之，係我好細個既時候已經有，到現在繼續解緊，越來越解。

婦解，好似係令到女人有更多＂權力＂，更加＂自由＂，更＂平等＂，更多＂參與＂，更 ...........。

但係婦解對男人有乜影響呢？我就唔知有無人研究過。不過，最近，好多時都聽聞社會大眾批評而家Ｄ男人就點樣無用。好似比人周街打咁啦，又廢，學業成績又唔及女同學，又做宅男，工作表現唔及女同事，唔好講上進心，連自尊心都超低....。總之就不知所謂，一代不如一代咁啦。

查實，大家有無想過，廢男同婦解係有直接關係？

Are we playing a game?

We know what is online game.

if i told you that our real life was far more advance, we could enter a game to play in first person mode. And our life in this world was an online game, we entered the game as a child, when we died, then game over and we had to go back to our real life. 

The reason why we played this game because we wanted to experience different life. We wanted to be a singer, a hero, a doctor, a ...., a .... etc. Or, we entered into the game because of someone; we wanted to be friend of somebody, to marry somebody, to love somebody, to become enemy of somebody etc.

Now, you know the fact, are you going to live the same as usual or another? What you are going to do more and do less?

Right for information

We make decision base on the information in our brain.

Our experience, our perception are the products the information we have.

Think about that. When one day some one feeding selected information, or partially hiding information, or distorting information that we have every day. We can see how terrible our experience, perception and decision will be.

In an open society, people have the full rights to get the information they need, I mean the raw data, fact, etc. No hiding, no cheating, no distorting.

With full rights to access all of the information, then people can be deemed to have full responsibility to what they have done.

What is heaven looks like?

what is heaven look like?

who can tell? except those who believe in transmigration or people with super power which can travel between heaven and world.

from my own perspective, heaven is pure, is absolute, is "the best". In heaven, there is no error, mistake, or even wrongdoing. While world, we have right or wrong, good or bad, kind and evil etc.

In a pure form, we find no other alternative, because we are living in "the best" situation. No matter what we do, eating, walking, dressing, thinking, talking, and etc, we are in "the best" way, the absolute way to do it.

Since there is no alternation, we don't have to think, consider, or even make choice. We know what the should is, we act what we should be, there is no reason to have an alternation. And, everything is predictable, or we can say there is no other way to do one thing.

Heaven is pure, absolute form.

Yes, there is no choice. 

Please enjoy a world with a lot of choices and the rights to make choices.

Heaven

I had a dream last night, it was about my life in heaven. I remember I entered into a room and was having meal with other people. 

But, I don't like heaven. Everything is governed by rules and regulations. No exception. No alternation. No option. And no surprise. I found people not even chat because there is no topic for chatting.

People in heaven like robot, doing the same things, reaction is also the same.

And then, I walk out of the room looking at the blue sky and yelled. It is so good to be in Earth !! We have choice !!

education

the ultimate goal of education is to open up one's mind.

however, nowadays education is being used to leading people to some specific designed thinking and conclusion.  

education should teaches us to find out what is it, what is right, and what is wrong. But, we are taught what is it, what is right, and what is wrong.

Can you earn from real estate?

If you own only "1 house", I don't think you can earn from real estate.

Lets say you buy a new house with 100k. After 5 years the price goes to 300k. For sure you are very happy about it.

How can you earn money? for sure sell your house for 300k and earn 200k. Now you have 300k on hand but where do you live? for sure you have to buy a house. So, you go back to the market and look for a house. If you want a house which is similar as your old one (you don't want to downgrade your living standard, right?) Guess how much the new house will cost you? for sure 300k.

So, how much you earn from real estate? negative. Beside, you have to pay all the fee in both selling and buying transactions. At last, you got a lost.

YOU CAN EARN FROM REAL ESTATE STARTING FROM YOU HAVE 2nd HOUSE.

The world is not beautiful

for those who like taking pictures/photos knows that the world is not that beautiful as we seen in photo or in photography shows.

The reason why photos in photography show is because the photographer capture the most beautiful part in the original scene. In a whole, the scene may not be beautiful or even ugly but the photographer will capture the best part of it. Sometimes, editing also plays a key role in finishing a beautiful photos. We have heard that a fat woman become thin after editing, grey sky become blue etc etc.

Lets show an example, when taking human face, we would take the most beautiful part and avoid the most ugly part. We may have ugly mouth, nose, ears, but we have a pair of beautiful eyes. For a smart photographer, they will take picture on the eyes instead of other parts of the face.

The world is not beautiful. It is true our world is not heaven but not hell. So, it has beautiful and ugly parts. If you really want to enjoy your life, focus on beautiful part and avoid ugly part. 

However, when you are enjoying the beautiful things, please don't forget that there is also an ugly things. If possible, fix it.

Boss's decision

The decision of your boss is based on what and how information you feed to them. Basically, your boss is keep sucking information and use them to make decision. (I donno whether they digest the information or not) 

Do they go to see what is going on themselves? Yes, maybe, but not always or often. That's why they need you to feed them information.

I am not telling you to hide information or lie to your boss, and I just remind you that you should not miss reporting "some important information" to them.

Lets use an example.
In a meeting, all staffs look sad because of the information of boss asks for. The boss requests them to look for how the opponent reach goal A, B, and C..... but they cannot. At last, staffs collect the data and have a result.
One of the staff adds a piece of information in the report is: how much the opponent have spent in achieving goal A, B, and C...
Another staff adds if we cannot achieving goal A, B, and C... how much the company will suffer.

how much it is being loved

No matter how much you love your house, it is true that the new owner will renovate it.

No matter how much you love something, it doesn't mean that the other will love it as you do.

Live with your own style but don't expect the others like it.

Be yourself is fine and great. As, there are many many OTHERS, you can't please them all and no need to please them all. Because they won't say a word of thank to you even you try to please them.

力不到不為財

如果地下有張一百蚊紙, 你想要的話都要彎低身先攞到.

照呢一個道理, 如果你存錢入銀行跟住乜都唔做, 你估你會唔會發達? 當然你好清楚輸通漲都輸死你.

同一個道理, 如果你D錢買晒股票跟手乜都唔理你估你會唔會變成D有錢佬? 結果都係唔會.

人家有錢因為佢地會見底入見高買, 錢先會返幾返, 你淨係買完就唔理, 比你發達都唔公平.

其實個道理就她似買屋, 今日你買咗間屋, 你住係度唔理佢, 無錯, 你間屋既屋價係不停向上升. 但係你唔好唔得, 其他屋都係一路升. 咁積係數字上係升咗, 但在市場上你間屋係無升到. 要係屋度發達, 都係要屋價高就買, 屋價底就入. 當然你會話個市你估唔到. 但係由旺區搬去有 potential 既新區你識既. 好多人買咗新區守幾年就發咗就係咁解. 又或者買間舊屋返新就可以賣高價搵錢.

講來講去都係一個道理, 錢放係度唔理係唔會變多D. 力不到不為財.

有時真係好唔明自己, 成幾十歲人先識得呢個道理.

You can't buy the same house after 3 weeks

It is not fun. It is true in nowadays Toronto real estate market.

let's say, your house worth 60k and you want to move to another location and buying a new house worth 60k. So, the game is simple, sell your house and buy the new one.

In day one, you sell your house in 60k. You set your closing dates in 3 months, the reason is you want to much time to look for your dream house which is worth 60k in the market.

But the thing is: when you go through the market, you find that the price of house is keep raising month by month. So the story is, if you find a house you like, in day 1 it is 60k and you can afford it, but after few weeks or 1 month you no longer can afford it because the house price is raise. The house price keeps raising afterward. 

At the result, when you sell your house in day 1 with 60k and think that you can afford a house with equal value which is also 60k. In day 1 you can, but it may be 70k after 3 months. The longer you are in the market, the more you are difficult to find a house with equal value of your original house. The most possible time frame to buy the same value of house is within 2 to 3 weeks nowadays in Toronto, otherwise, you fail.

And don't forget you may not buy the house as you want for many special but common reason. Such as bidding. a house listed 60k doesn't mean that it must be sold in 60k in bidding.

The real estate market goes crazy in Toronto? No, it happens in other provincial too, B.C. A woman sells her house with 1 million, but finally, she only can buy a house which value is lower than 1 million as she stays in the market too long.

環保真的很貴？

好多人到今時今日，都都認爲要環保，係要好貴。


環保主張 3R: reduce, reuse, and recycle


按道理，除了 recycle 係需要多用資源之外，其餘 2R 都只會少用資源。環保很貴，真係要深思，想想你是如何環保？如何保護環保？


很多時，人們都會將環保同健康放在一起。事實上它們並非共生，有機會再講。要健康一些，事實上是可以很貴。尤其是現時商人喜歡將健康食品及用品加上環保之名，以高價銷售。因此，大多數人都有一個感覺，環保很貴。

要記錄

這個經驗要真的記錄下來，唔想再發生。

賣樓時，切勿去聽 seller or seller's agent 的 presentation。

人家想平價買你間樓，當然要數臭係間樓有幾唔好。如果唔係點壓你價。就算唔係好差都話到好差。唔差既，佢都會話呢樣野有無佢地都唔係好 care。呢一點，明既！

但係如果係坐係度聽 presentation，咪積係坐係度比人寸。寸唔緊要，你最後重要比人寸完後減價賣你間樓比人。即係比人鬧完重要簽名賣比人，咁咪積係你同意人家寸你既野啦，邊有人咁賤家？！？！

以後做人唔好咁賤啦。

朋友

性格呢樣野真係個個都唔同。朋友當然要情投意合，所以大家都知唔係個個人都可以做朋友。

小時候的朋友，其實大咗先發現性格上唔係唔係好夾。但奇就奇在，無論點，到而家都係好朋友。

係呢，中間在Ｄ乜野係度呢？

兩種事

呢個世界有兩種事：一種事係要你去做決定，一種事係要你去接受。

痛苦是：當係要做決定時你不決定而去接受。當你要接受時你不接受而去做決定。

Difference between human and animal

what is the difference between human and other animals

when we predict future
human use logic, and animals use experience (the result from trial and error)

however, human still using theory which is established by observation and testing. it is more solid but still is the result from trial and error. 

this theory may be true in some circumstances (such as good for earth) but cannot apply to all situation (the universal). 

the experience of animal is not universally true, but if it is being confined within a limited situation (such as its living area), its experience also is true.

logic is a way of thinking but not theory itself. we may not learn logic but don't mean that we cannot predict or handle our daily life. it is because we can survive from our experience most of the time. so, for logic, i use it for prediction.

前塵往事之 Mind Map

了解（八卦）新事物素來都係我既本性。當然學新野無論係工作上或服務別人上都有一定好處。

記得係屯門工作期間，自己睇書學識咗一種幫助思考及紀錄方法，叫做 mind map。當時未係好流行，因為都好新（對於香港人來講，可能係北美就係好舊，anyway, I don't know）。

有一次開 annual retreat。當時我就用咗 mind map 呢個工具去做 presentation。老闆第一個反應就係＂呢個乜野黎？＂。跟住就彈到一文不值。另外，兩個擦鞋仔又跟住唱雙簧。引入新野換來既結局就係多事幹，多Ｑ餘，無野搵野做，唔等使..........

但係唔知幾時，我諗半年至一年後，有日，老闆就攞咗個 mind map 用來做 presentation。重話比我地聽 mind map 幾咁正，幾咁新，好似佢發現咁，當然擦鞋他繼續讚老闆，繼續擦佢對鞋，重乜Ｑ野都用 mind map 去做 presentation 啦。

我頂！！！

膠劇的價值

近來，在同一時段內睇緊兩套港劇。一套係 HKTV 既三面形醫，另一套係 TVB 既樓奴。

老實講，套樓奴真係膠到唔膠。一開始以為套片係講香港人如何成為樓奴及高樓價對現今香港人既影響。點知？點知，乜都唔係，只係一套要有千千萬萬個巧合先會發生到既愛情片。膠到唔膠。

三面形醫，絕對係一套好片。先唔提演員演技。劇本同拍攝就好正，鋪排好，節奏好，好多嘢你諗唔到。

但係我都有繼續睇樓奴。返工已經好累，放工之後真係唔想用腦。要再睇Ｄ用腦既戲真係好累。樓奴呢Ｄ片就最好，真係一Ｄ都唔使用腦。佢既劇情，真係一Ｄ都唔使諗就知道下一分鐘，下一個鐘同下一個星期講乜。佢既笑位係邊度係九成都估到。呢類片，突然令到自己好似好高班，係高級電影評論員一樣。真係自信心都高咗好多。

膠劇都有其生存價值。膠劇都有其客路。膠劇既存在亦反映到一個城市既情況，尤其係市民既生活現況同心理現況。

House - Markham

MLS - http://www.mls.ca

Property Details Search - http://www.markham.ca/wps/portal/Markham/BusinessDevelopment/PlanningAndDevelopmentServices/PropertyDetailsSearch/

Markham City - http://www.markham.ca


Call before you dig - http://www.on1call.com/

Navigate Markham - http://maps.markham.ca/NavigateMarkham/

Toronto Aviation Noise Group - https://northtoronto.wordpress.com/

Sherwood Amberglen Ratepayers Association - http://york.cioc.ca/record/MKM1302

Urban Toronto Forum - http://urbantoronto.ca/forum/

South Unionville Resident Forum - http://www.surforum.ca/

My Cornell - http://www.mycornell.ca/

Cornell Village Forum - http://www.cornellvillage.ca/

Chimney FAQ - http://magictouch.to/faq.html

蜜蜂與烏蠅

今年，唔知乜星動，賣屋買屋，事情尚在進行中。過程並不好受。先不講賣屋那部分，買屋的過程使在想起蜜蜂與烏蠅的故事。

話說。有一個科學實驗研究蜜蜂同烏蠅，睇下邊個生存能力強。

科學家將一隻蜜蜂放入一個玻璃樽，然後倒轉個樽睇下佢識唔識走出呢個困境。結果，隻蜜蜂最後死咗。之後，科學家用同樣既方法放隻烏蠅去試。結果，隻鳥蠅成功逃脫。

科學研究點解隻蜜蜂會死而隻鳥蠅無死？結論如下。

蜜蜂由頭到尾都係向光飛，就算係無路都不停向光飛，結果，油盡燈枯而死。烏蠅呢？毫無章法，亂咁撞，結果就比由下面飛走。

在社會上，我們都被教育到要跟規矩做事，凡事係有根有據，不可以違反規則，就好似比賽一樣。

事實呢？

我只想講，要完成一件事係可以有好多方法。跟規矩只係其中一個方法但絕對唔係唯一的一個方法。如果有其他方法而又唔傷害到別人，可不一試？

就好似行山，係有條好多人行開既山路。但自己試下一條新路又有何不可？試咗未必一定得，但唔試就一定唔得。如果，試係無成本或後果的話，唔試就一定係笨。

大隱隱於市

古時修道有一句名言：大隱隱於市

指出很多修行高的人並不生活在深山之中。反之，他們活在繁華鬧市之中。我們想找高人並不一定到深山之中搜尋，到鬧市之中亦可。

市中的是大隱，指修為已經很高，可以講比在深山中修行的更高。何解？我相信不是因為在鬧市中吸引多，容易失手。說實的，都已經有一定的修維，那些所謂聲色犬馬的吸引對修道者並不吸引。還受影響的通常是初哥。

修道者去到某個階段就開始有＂潔癖＂，對人世間的一切都不想涉及。所以，他們都喜歡跑到深山裡去。在鬧市中，他們的潔癖使他們對身邊一切都看不順眼，容易敗壞修行。能於活在那些看不順眼的也可以心平的，面對著種種不公的發生在自己身上的而可以心平者，實在不易。

兩種性格

兩種性格

一. 隨遇而安, 安天命.
二. 命運在我手, 一切由我作主.

兩種性格無不可. 最痛苦係. 

本著隨遇而安但又想控制. 
控制一切時又想老天有安排.

Advance Care Planning

預設醫療指示 - http://www.s100.hk/tc/topics/Health-and-care/Advance-directives/What-is-an-Advance-Directive/

佛教道教

道教，是中國的原始宗教。在中國有很大的支持。主要是清淨無為。
佛教，是由西方（印度）傳入中國亦大行其道。主要是四大皆空。
至於回教，基督宗教在中國都有信徒，但遠遠不及道教與佛教之多。

如果我們相信一個宗教能得到廣泛支持是因為能指到當地人民的心靈問題深深處。

那麼，中國人最大的問題就是自私，和貪。自我比一切為大。

講博愛的基督宗教就指出西方人的冷漠。事事追求一個制度，用制度去管理人與人之間的事情，把人情人性都去掉。

上天堂

上天堂之前真係要做好多好多野。最低限度要清晒Ｄ垃圾。

近來要搬屋，我就好明白呢個道理。

BTW，其實唔係好貼題。因為上天堂係應該對人世間既野乜都唔理，拍拍羅友就上路。所以，搬屋呢家野，其實係由一個地獄去到另一個地獄而已。

我車！

Privacy Policy

What is Privacy Policy?

Privacy Policy is to protect someone you don't want them to read or even you don't know they are reading your information has the rights to read it.

Privacy Policy is also to make sure someone you want them to read your information do not have the rights to read it.

兩條公式 一個答案

草根：住草根的地方，食草根的食物，玩草根的娛樂，穿草根的衣服，結交草根朋友，獲得的是快樂。
上層：住上層的地方，食上層的食物，玩上層的娛樂，穿上層的衣服，結交上層朋友，獲得的是快樂。

衣食住行，是有分草根和上層，但快樂，沒有分草根與上層。草根階層獲得的快樂與上層階層所獲得的快樂是沒有兩樣。

兩條不同的公式，結局是一樣的。

為何不可食狗？

中國狗肉節又到，又引起國際罵聲四起。狗販的回應是，為何可以食豬，食牛，食羊，食一切動物就偏偏不可食狗？

對於素食的我，這絕對不是一個難答的問題。但對於食肉人士，無論你如果回答，都是牽強。

眾生平等。狗與其他動物同人類無異，對於有高道德水平的人類，本來動物就不是人類既食物。若人真的要食肉，什麼肉又有什麼分別？為何只有狗不可食之理？

要指出狗不可用來吃，只可從愛出發。

素食者不食肉，就是大愛，愛眾生，愛平等。因此，不是不能食肉，而是食不下。食肉的人，沒有大愛。只食某肉而不食某某食肉並不是愛而只是偏食，愛狗而不食極其量只是小愛或偏愛。偏愛者只是個人喜嗜。既然是個人喜嗜，你不食是你自己既事，管不了他人，亦無資格說他人。

不食狗的原因不是我們愛狗而不食。反之，不食狗的原因是因為狗愛我們。吃下愛你的動物，這就是問題。無論你是素食者，肉食者，傷害愛你的生命就是錯，就是無良心。以怨報德，於心何忍？

萬物有情，豈只是狗？養小雞的小孩不吃成長後的小雞。與小豬相處一段時間的小子，不肯食其肉。小孩也懂相愛。要學懂愛，學懂牠們對你的愛。什麼可食，什麼不可食，在你心中就一清二楚。

兒時卡通

生命是不是那麼的苦？
當生活到低潮時，就會去看一齣兒時卡通片。
除了忘憂外，還把生命調整調整，使生命看起來還是很有意義，很美好的。

偏執

有些人，好似我咁，死都要維護所謂合理既事。但當然所謂合理就係合我自己個理。
我呢種人，最大既特色就係死都要講最後一句。好似講咗最後一句就係 conclude 咗個結論，即係章顯咗個真理咁。係有少少低能，但性格既野係好難改。
要我唔講最後一句係無乜可能，要幫自己改，為有最後一句照講，不過只可以講呢一句話，其他既說話唔可以講。講邊一句話呢？
就係：你鍾意啦。

problem and soluation

in dark night we see stars; in sunny day we see shadow.

when there is despair there is hope.

happiness comes with sadness.

problem and solution come together, this is now the nature works.

in Chinese Taoism:

無極生太極

太極生兩儀

兩儀是一齊來的，一齊存在，並無先後

if you only see problem, i can tell, you just miss the already there solution

解決問題

做咗咁多年人發現：

1. 錢係可以解決好多問題，但無錢唔代表唔可以解決問題。

2. 要解決問題最緊要係創意。

3. 有錢人通常都係無創意。

時間係可以治療一切

常言道，時間係可以治療一切。
服務腦退化病患者的我深深地體會這個道理。
而事實上，那個人不是有腦退化呢？不同的只是程度而已。

活在自我空間

Assistive Device

Assistive Device 最大的功用就是使用者（傷殘人士）back to normal。透過工具使修殘人士如正常人般生活。若你想過正常人生活就使用工具啦，好似眼鏡，助聽器，輪椅等等。

重點係 back to normal。normal 既定義係一般人既 normal，即一般人或社會大眾既標準。

我以前講過一個三手外星人既故事（忘了的話請搵舊 post）。主線都係講 disable，但方向係講 how we set the standard, how we set the environment and what is "normal"?

同是講 disable 但方向就絕不相同。我自己覺得很有思考空間。

奇妙的生命

簡單來說
動物吸取氧氣呼出二氧化碳，植物吸取二氧化碳呼出氧氣。
動物吃植物排糞便成長，植物吸收動物糞便而成長。
簡單而言
每一刻，生物（包括所有生物，動物，植物等等）不停把化學原素轉化。假定全地球有100個氧氣原子，100個碳原子。生物們不停把這些氧原子及碳原子轉化（O2 to CO2 to O2）。但氧及碳原子的數量並沒有增加或減少，除非天外飛來殞石才可增加原素數目，例如外太空飛來一粒水殞石，那麼地球就多了氧及氫原素，因為水是H2O。

生命就是那麼神奇，在沒有增加或消耗地球的一點原素而孕育了這麼多不同的生命。

大媽經濟學

很早前，聽過一個說法。在未來中國經濟模式將會取締西方經濟模式。 

當時，我是摸不著頭腦，甚麼西方經濟模式？甚麼中國經濟模式？

在我腦中，經濟就只一條數，賺最多的錢。有錢搵就去，無錢搵就縮。 

近來聽過大媽投資策略，我就開始明白一二。 

買股票，當然睇公司實力，未來計劃，潛力，風險等等。對於優質股，價低入價高放，即賺大錢。 

大媽呢？當然睇大媽喜歡不喜歡你。喜歡你，入你一億半億比你發展。要多一些？搵班鄉里夾幾百至千零多億比你發展。就算你間公司幾豬，有了幾百至千億比你發展，在市場上突然一鳴驚人，總會有出名的時候，到時人人追捧，唔發到幾難。 

大媽睇關係，用錢玩死你，真係做到不被錢牽住走。這種睇關係睇心情的經濟模式，西方人真是不知如果對應。 最近，香港金市，股市不就是比大媽們死？要你邊一隻升，它不能不升。大媽放手的話，你不能不死。 

嘿！

Happy Mothers' Day

A: send you a meaningful message

B: OK

A:

My Wife DOES NOT WORK !!! 

Conversation between a Husband (H) and a Psychologist (P): 

🔸P : What do you do for a living Mr. Bandy? 

🔹H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank. 

🔸P : Your Wife ? 

🔹H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only. 

🔸P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning? 

🔹H : My Wife, because she doesn't work. 

🔸P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast? 

🔹H : She wakes up at around 5 am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast. 

🔸P : How do your kids go to school? 

🔹H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn't work. 

🔸P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do? 

🔹H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn't work. 

🔸P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
🔹H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works. 

🔸P : What does your wife do then? 

🔹H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed. 

💯✔ Whom do you think works more, from the story above??? 

🔱 The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK'??!! 

🎋 Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important! 

💝 Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each others roles. 

🎏All about a WOMAN ...... 

💛 When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind. 

💙 When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted. 

💜 When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock. 

💚 Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted... 

↪ Forward to every woman to make her smile and to every man to make him realize a woman's worth......!!! 

❤💚💜💙💛💖 A heart touching message...... by a woman......" 

Some one asked her...... Are you a working woman or a housewife ?? 

She replied : Yes I am a full time working housewife. I work 24 hours a day..... 

I'm a "mum", 

I'm a wife, 

I'm a daughter, 

I'm a daughter-in-law..... 

I'm an Alarm clock, 

I'm a Cook, 

I'm a Maid, 

I'm a Teacher, 

I'm a waiter, 

I'm a nanny, 

I'm a nurse, 

I'm a handyman, 

I'm a Security officer, 

I'm a Counsellor, 

I'm a comforter, 

I don't get holidays, 

I don't get sick leave, 

I don't get day off...... 

I work through day and night..... 

I'm on call...... 

all hours and get paid with a sentence..... "what do you do all day" 

★ [ DON'T FORGET TO SHARE ] 👏👏👏👏👏 

Dedicated to all women😘😊 

👌🍃Woman has the most unique character like salt Her presence is never remembered but Her absence makes all the things tasteless !!

🐾👍 Pass it to all the lovely ladies..... Happy Mother's Day ! Thank you! 

B: But not fully apply to my situation 😜

A: It doesn't fully apply to any of us. But it acknowledges the hard work of a wife and mother. So when you also work on top of this role, you deserve a bigger applaud!

B: Yes, you are right. What if
When the husband do all the driving
When the husband do laundry
When the husband vacuums the floor
When the husband do gardening
When the husband wakes his wife up
When the husband prepares his own breakfast
When the husband shops foods together
When the husband pays all the bills
When the husband drives to the family doctor no matter who get sick
I think you have to give "the husband" extra applaud. 😜

 A: I know... It's Mother's Day ah ma!

B: I have no problem of mother's day but just have concern on wife's day.

B: I want to share a story too

A: What is it?

B: 我出世時我老媽子無問過我。
我上邊一間幼稚園我老媽子無問過我。
我上邊一間小學中學我老媽子無問過我。
大學她不懂，但就不停叫我做醫生或者律師。

我小時候參加的課外活動我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候我所有衣着我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候絕大部分我用既物品我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候去街的目的地我老媽子無問過我。
......

大咗？
大咗我老媽子想盡辦法干涉我。
真係用盡所有方法包括非法手段，用金錢同情感方法去控制我。
....

結果我離開了這個家，
老媽子還是想我住近她一點。美其名照顧我飲食，實質係人肉監示。
結婚後要管的更加多，包括我老婆同的下一代。
 .....

結論呢？
結論係：我愛你老媽子

 A: :|

Believe

It is meaningless or waste of time to discuss about belief (with other people).

You can listen or neglect but not discuss.

BTW, do you know how much we talk in a day is base on belief but not fact? I think I have to learn to shut up !

Learn from a Palliative Presentation

1. there is no such thing as : too old is a reason to die. it is not a good comforting speaking for people with a dying loved one. We die because our body/organ no longer can support us for survival.

2. a private funeral or without funeral is stopping people who is not the family member to mourn their grievance. When someone died, not only the family feel lost, but also friends, colleague, or someone who knows; we never know there will be someone very important to the deceased one exist.

3. grievance is something relate to loss. It is not only applied in loss of life, it also applied on every losses. For people with dementia, they are also feeling grief because of losing memory, self-image, identity, reasoning, speech and etc.

Donation

Clothes Collection Bin - https://www.diabetes.ca/how-you-can-help/clothesline/find-a-clothesline-drop-box

Acceptance & Commitment Therapy

Acceptance Commitment Therapy

http://www.actmindfully.com.au/acceptance_&_commitment_therapy

http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/about_act

http://fhs.mcmaster.ca/cbs/act.html

樂在其中

你懂得人世間的遊戲規則嗎？ 
很多人做人都不快樂。無論在那一方面或多方面都很不快樂。

你試想一想。 魔鬼在地獄快樂嗎？快樂。但他在天堂中他就不快樂。 

天使呢？他們在天堂中會快樂但在地獄中就不快樂。 

什麼原因？原因在於他們是否能夠樂在其中。天堂又正氣又祥和，魔鬼鍾意攪攪鎮，當然去到天堂會周身唔自然。至於地獄？乜野骯髒都在，頭上有光環既天使又點頂得順。

同樣，你做人不快樂都是這個道理，因為你不懂得樂在其中。你不懂得享受人世間，你就自然不快樂。就正如天使不懂地獄混亂的樂趣，魔鬼不懂祥和的樂趣一樣。

人世間是什麼？如果你認為人世間的快樂建基於名利權，我相信你還不懂得人世間的道理，不懂得樂在其中。 

人世間最重要的事實是：沒有一樣東西是永恆，真係歌仔都有得你唱，如果你既快樂建築於這些不永恆的東西，你還是不懂得享受人世間的樂趣。你能夠身處於變化，不永恆的情境嗎？能夠享受到如露亦如電的電光火石的一生嗎？永恆的國度能給予你穩定不變的承諾，但變化卻能給予你不同的新體驗。要在穩定中找變化很難，同樣地，要在變化中找永恆一樣難。

人世間是什麼？你自己想想吧，找找吧。有一日，當你在什麼情況下還是笑面迎人，恭喜你，樂在其中。

Professional vs Layman

The difference between professional and layman is: curiosity.

三腳金蟾

今日，講風水。 

係地圖上，香港係成隻青蛙咁樣。頭係西環，腳係石澳，赤柱。手係香港仔。 

唔知你地有無聽過三腳金蟾？ 唔知？去http://zh.wikipedia.org/zh-hk/%E9%87%91%E8%9F%BE 

基本上三腳金蟾係貪婪既像徵。香港呢條命，似乎係一早注定。

另一個我

曾經唔知係邊度聽到一個心理學既現象。小孩子係會自我精神上分裂一個自己同自己玩，同自己傾偈。所以，有時我地見到小孩子自言自語就係咁解。當然，呢個都係恐怖片既好題材。

我細細個時，我唔知我有無自言自語，但係有一樣野我係好記得既。我記得我細個時，我係好相信係呢個宇宙既唔知邊度既一個星球上（細細個既我都幾科幻），有著同一個我存在（嘩！平衡空間概念）。雖然我地活在不同星球，但係，呢個另一個我同我share咗我既能力（能量轉送，互相轉移）。而另一個我係個星球上係好辛苦，因為？因為個個星球正在打仗，當然，另一個我都係度打緊仗，好危險，好辛苦。我試過係夢中去過佢個星球，見過佢，同佢傾過偈。我知佢好辛苦，好危險。

結果呢？結果查實好簡單。因為我地係 share 咗能力，所以，係地球既我要好好休息，瞓多Ｄ覺，補充體力。咁，佢係另一個星球既我就有氣有力繼續打仗。

就係咁多。

講下道理

好多宗教既修行絕對係非人既生活。那種無慾無求，濟世為懷既情操，真係唔係人既生活。

唔好講咁遠，我地做人能夠多一些理性，多一些自律就已經不得了。

無論在生活細節上，日常消費上，到社會問題上，人類，都處處顯出佢癡乜線既一面。

例子多到數唔到，好似用成隻勞力士既價錢買隻蘋果電子手錶。好似一對腳但係有一百對鞋。好似叫有人對國家有信心自己就送仔女移民。等等。

唔好講到咁high profile，人，做返一個合情合理既人已經好難得。

中國茶杯

40多年來，我就是不明白中國茶杯的道理。
大家都知，中國茶杯，細細隻，容量不多。要靠它解渴？死得，因為飲10杯都唔夠。同西人既水杯比，或者罐裝飲品比，中國茶杯輸晒。

近日，我先終於明白中國茶杯既精髓所在，是智慧既結晶。

先問，如果你臨瞓前一小時飲３杯水，你一定估到呢晚你一定無覺好瞓，因為你一定要去幾次廁所。

前日，我就去了朋友家作客，傾偈傾到很夜，其間不停飲清茶，用的是中國茶杯，飲的數量無20都有15杯（細細杯，我又多嘢講，因此杯不停）。因為實在太夜了，反家後，沖涼即瞓，但一整晚沒有上廁所。

小小的中國茶杯，可令你不停保充水份又唔會令你身體負荷太多。千年不變的事，個中總有其道理。

打劫

基本上任何政府都在不同程度下打劫人民。有的是偷，有的是騙，有的是強搶，種種手法層出不窮。

作為一個政府，作為一個政府內的人員，可得到的利益實在太大。大到連應有的道德都忘得一乾二淨。

政黨的輪交替其實是對市民在政治及利益上的輪姦。

想當初，人民受權政府就是付予一部分人權力去為市民服務。但在沒有有效控制下，政府就變成洪水猛獸，四處為害。

在沒有辦法打倒這隻怪獸之時，我們盡可能就是減少被免受到它的傷害。

傷殘

有一個外星人到地球探索。他的外形很像地球人，他同地球人最明顯的分別是他有三隻手。在探索途中因一次意外傷了其中一隻手。他跑到地球醫院求醫，但可惜傷勢太嚴重斷手救不了。


他痛哭，因為自此他只得兩隻手，從此成為了傷殘人士！

親愛的人類，你認為他是傷殘人士嗎？
兩隻手生活不到嗎？

世界上，究竟真的存在著＂傷殘＂還是存在著＂另一種生活方式＂？

逃亡潮

幾十年前，我聽到一個故事，因為這個故事使我加快加入環保的行列。


故事是周兆祥講的：每天破壞地球就如同一班人坐在飛機上把飛機的螺絲一粒一粒地拔掉。總有一天會飛機會在空中解體，乘客全部死光。


今天，看到中國高官、有錢人的逃亡潮。就算因為某些原因走不掉也想盡辦法把家人都送到外國。原因？


有說是對害怕現在制度。但明明他們就在這個制度中撈油水的，掌握著整個制度，還怕什麼？


我相信的是：他們知道他們為了自己的利益，把這個國家污染到已經去到非走不可的地步。

沒有壞天氣只有不合適的衣服

德國人在教仔時有一句說話：“there is no such thing as bad weather, only unsuitable clothing.”

呢一句說話非常有意思。


北美父母教仔時都以全保護既方式，務求建立一個沒有危險既環境比小孩成長。


事實上，北美人都喜歡改變環境，把環境改變成為一個他們理想的環境，當然，他們亦同時相信自己絕對有能力可以這樣做。甚至乎他們認為自己有著如同上帝的能力去改變世界。

但事實呢？事實是這個世界及社會一定是充滿不同程度的困難。無論人類多利害也沒法把世界上所有困難一一清除。事實上有好多問題亦是由人類製造出來的。


因此，真正教導小孩去面對世界是如德國人般，教導孩子學會如何去面對不同的環境，不同的困難。懂得如何於困難中自處，困難就並是真的那麼困難，甚至乎並不困難。

其實中國文化中，亦不時提出這樣的思想。與大自然合一，順著自然而走等等。當然我所指的中國文化絕不是現時的中國思想。現代中國是悲哀的一個時代，因為，她把上千年的智慧都一一棄掉，而活在一個毛自以為是的世界。

女選民

這是一個非常有趣的說法。

政黨或政治人物要收買人心，最有效是收買女選民的心。何解？
因為女性天性專一。一旦你收買到她們的心，就算政黨或政治人物做錯了很多很多，她們亦會一路支持你下去。向社會大叫比多次機會你。

而要收買女選民既心其實亦並非難事，只要政策向家庭及子女福利傾鈄就可以。

一旦收買到好們既心，就一定唔可以推出令家庭及子女福利有損害既政策。這是失去女選民既最大既可能。

最後，你知唔知人口比例中女人基本上佔有50%，你明白味？

Blog

無無聊聊時我會上返自己個Blog。睇下以前既自己係個乜人，而家變成了一個乜人。有時都幾得意。

有人講，blog係寫比人睇，我絕對唔同意，blog係寫比自己睇。唔係你唔寫比人睇，而係搵鬼睇你個blog。

今日超無聊，係自己個blog度click入人地既blog，random一下其他人寫乜。點知click唔夠兩下就收工。人家既野有乜好睇。所以話blog係寫比自己睇。

除非你係名人又唔同。

Health Card Link

Health Card : http://www.health.gov.on.ca/en/public/programs/ohip/default.aspx

Lost Health Card : https://www.ontario.ca/faq/how-can-i-replace-loststolendamaged-health-card

Renew Health Card: http://www.health.gov.on.ca/en/public/publications/ohip/renew.aspx

Change of Address Health Card : https://www.ontario.ca/faq/how-do-i-change-my-address-my-health-card

SIN Link

SIN Social Insurance Number: http://www.servicecanada.gc.ca/eng/sc/sin/

Lost SIN Card: http://www.servicecanada.gc.ca/eng/sin/lost/replace.shtml

一遍空白

還記得每次去聽講座，上 workshops，好多時講者都會係事前或事後問有無想法，有無意見。

到今時今日，我既答案都係無。

若果係事前被問，講者就會覺得我無承意，無心學嘢只係打算 hea 夠就走人。

若果係事後被問，講者就覺得你之前全場發夢，無心向學。

有咁想法，人之常情。

我只係覺得，去學嘢時點解一定要帶埋自己既想法去？點解唔可以好似張白紙咁去學嘢？你心中有物又點會盡聽講者既內容？其實，一張白紙先至係最好既聆聽者。

另外，聽完後點解又一定要有意見？你有你講，你有你見解。但點解我一定要 comment 你既見解？呢個世界係同一件事上唔可以有多個一個見解？

當然，有時無 comment 可以係腦內一遍空白。我細個常常係呢種狀態。但大個後，經驗多咗後，凡事都有好多意見，並唔係我聰明而只係知料多咗，知道有其他人有唔同既意見，我只不過係用人地既嘢去 comment 一下。我相信我再大 D 既時候又會返到無 comment 既狀況。

世事既嘢有乜好 comment 。正所謂太陽底下無新事，講多多餘。至真既嘢都係講唔到既，用心去 feel 吧啦。
 

污水找淨水

污水找淨水。 

污水無論怎樣努力都找不到淨水。 因為每次當污水碰到淨水時，淨水都變成污水。 

最後，污水想到一個方法：就是先自我淨化，淨化後再碰到淨水時也不會污染了它。 

於是污水努力淨化自己，到最後把自己變成淨水。在那一刻，污水知道已經不再需要找淨水。

萬緣放下

萬緣放下自性現。

什麼也是道，什麼也有他的道。
什麼也不永恒，什麼也不需執着。
沒什麼可說，沒什麼可教。
對與錯只是一個選擇，並非真有一個對一個錯。