problem and soluation

in dark night we see stars; in sunny day we see shadow.

when there is despair there is hope.

happiness comes with sadness.

problem and solution come together, this is now the nature works.

in Chinese Taoism:

無極生太極

太極生兩儀

兩儀是一齊來的，一齊存在，並無先後

if you only see problem, i can tell, you just miss the already there solution

解決問題

做咗咁多年人發現：

1. 錢係可以解決好多問題，但無錢唔代表唔可以解決問題。

2. 要解決問題最緊要係創意。

3. 有錢人通常都係無創意。

時間係可以治療一切

常言道，時間係可以治療一切。
服務腦退化病患者的我深深地體會這個道理。
而事實上，那個人不是有腦退化呢？不同的只是程度而已。

活在自我空間

Assistive Device

Assistive Device 最大的功用就是使用者（傷殘人士）back to normal。透過工具使修殘人士如正常人般生活。若你想過正常人生活就使用工具啦，好似眼鏡，助聽器，輪椅等等。

重點係 back to normal。normal 既定義係一般人既 normal，即一般人或社會大眾既標準。

我以前講過一個三手外星人既故事（忘了的話請搵舊 post）。主線都係講 disable，但方向係講 how we set the standard, how we set the environment and what is "normal"?

同是講 disable 但方向就絕不相同。我自己覺得很有思考空間。

奇妙的生命

簡單來說
動物吸取氧氣呼出二氧化碳，植物吸取二氧化碳呼出氧氣。
動物吃植物排糞便成長，植物吸收動物糞便而成長。
簡單而言
每一刻，生物（包括所有生物，動物，植物等等）不停把化學原素轉化。假定全地球有100個氧氣原子，100個碳原子。生物們不停把這些氧原子及碳原子轉化（O2 to CO2 to O2）。但氧及碳原子的數量並沒有增加或減少，除非天外飛來殞石才可增加原素數目，例如外太空飛來一粒水殞石，那麼地球就多了氧及氫原素，因為水是H2O。

生命就是那麼神奇，在沒有增加或消耗地球的一點原素而孕育了這麼多不同的生命。

大媽經濟學

很早前，聽過一個說法。在未來中國經濟模式將會取締西方經濟模式。 

當時，我是摸不著頭腦，甚麼西方經濟模式？甚麼中國經濟模式？

在我腦中，經濟就只一條數，賺最多的錢。有錢搵就去，無錢搵就縮。 

近來聽過大媽投資策略，我就開始明白一二。 

買股票，當然睇公司實力，未來計劃，潛力，風險等等。對於優質股，價低入價高放，即賺大錢。 

大媽呢？當然睇大媽喜歡不喜歡你。喜歡你，入你一億半億比你發展。要多一些？搵班鄉里夾幾百至千零多億比你發展。就算你間公司幾豬，有了幾百至千億比你發展，在市場上突然一鳴驚人，總會有出名的時候，到時人人追捧，唔發到幾難。 

大媽睇關係，用錢玩死你，真係做到不被錢牽住走。這種睇關係睇心情的經濟模式，西方人真是不知如果對應。 最近，香港金市，股市不就是比大媽們死？要你邊一隻升，它不能不升。大媽放手的話，你不能不死。 

嘿！

Happy Mothers' Day

A: send you a meaningful message

B: OK

A:

My Wife DOES NOT WORK !!! 

Conversation between a Husband (H) and a Psychologist (P): 

🔸P : What do you do for a living Mr. Bandy? 

🔹H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank. 

🔸P : Your Wife ? 

🔹H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only. 

🔸P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning? 

🔹H : My Wife, because she doesn't work. 

🔸P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast? 

🔹H : She wakes up at around 5 am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast. 

🔸P : How do your kids go to school? 

🔹H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn't work. 

🔸P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do? 

🔹H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn't work. 

🔸P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
🔹H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works. 

🔸P : What does your wife do then? 

🔹H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed. 

💯✔ Whom do you think works more, from the story above??? 

🔱 The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK'??!! 

🎋 Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important! 

💝 Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each others roles. 

🎏All about a WOMAN ...... 

💛 When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind. 

💙 When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted. 

💜 When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock. 

💚 Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted... 

↪ Forward to every woman to make her smile and to every man to make him realize a woman's worth......!!! 

❤💚💜💙💛💖 A heart touching message...... by a woman......" 

Some one asked her...... Are you a working woman or a housewife ?? 

She replied : Yes I am a full time working housewife. I work 24 hours a day..... 

I'm a "mum", 

I'm a wife, 

I'm a daughter, 

I'm a daughter-in-law..... 

I'm an Alarm clock, 

I'm a Cook, 

I'm a Maid, 

I'm a Teacher, 

I'm a waiter, 

I'm a nanny, 

I'm a nurse, 

I'm a handyman, 

I'm a Security officer, 

I'm a Counsellor, 

I'm a comforter, 

I don't get holidays, 

I don't get sick leave, 

I don't get day off...... 

I work through day and night..... 

I'm on call...... 

all hours and get paid with a sentence..... "what do you do all day" 

★ [ DON'T FORGET TO SHARE ] 👏👏👏👏👏 

Dedicated to all women😘😊 

👌🍃Woman has the most unique character like salt Her presence is never remembered but Her absence makes all the things tasteless !!

🐾👍 Pass it to all the lovely ladies..... Happy Mother's Day ! Thank you! 

B: But not fully apply to my situation 😜

A: It doesn't fully apply to any of us. But it acknowledges the hard work of a wife and mother. So when you also work on top of this role, you deserve a bigger applaud!

B: Yes, you are right. What if
When the husband do all the driving
When the husband do laundry
When the husband vacuums the floor
When the husband do gardening
When the husband wakes his wife up
When the husband prepares his own breakfast
When the husband shops foods together
When the husband pays all the bills
When the husband drives to the family doctor no matter who get sick
I think you have to give "the husband" extra applaud. 😜

 A: I know... It's Mother's Day ah ma!

B: I have no problem of mother's day but just have concern on wife's day.

B: I want to share a story too

A: What is it?

B: 我出世時我老媽子無問過我。
我上邊一間幼稚園我老媽子無問過我。
我上邊一間小學中學我老媽子無問過我。
大學她不懂，但就不停叫我做醫生或者律師。

我小時候參加的課外活動我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候我所有衣着我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候絕大部分我用既物品我老媽子無問過我。
我小時候去街的目的地我老媽子無問過我。
......

大咗？
大咗我老媽子想盡辦法干涉我。
真係用盡所有方法包括非法手段，用金錢同情感方法去控制我。
....

結果我離開了這個家，
老媽子還是想我住近她一點。美其名照顧我飲食，實質係人肉監示。
結婚後要管的更加多，包括我老婆同的下一代。
 .....

結論呢？
結論係：我愛你老媽子

 A: :|

Believe

It is meaningless or waste of time to discuss about belief (with other people).

You can listen or neglect but not discuss.

BTW, do you know how much we talk in a day is base on belief but not fact? I think I have to learn to shut up !

Learn from a Palliative Presentation

1. there is no such thing as : too old is a reason to die. it is not a good comforting speaking for people with a dying loved one. We die because our body/organ no longer can support us for survival.

2. a private funeral or without funeral is stopping people who is not the family member to mourn their grievance. When someone died, not only the family feel lost, but also friends, colleague, or someone who knows; we never know there will be someone very important to the deceased one exist.

3. grievance is something relate to loss. It is not only applied in loss of life, it also applied on every losses. For people with dementia, they are also feeling grief because of losing memory, self-image, identity, reasoning, speech and etc.

Donation

Clothes Collection Bin - https://www.diabetes.ca/how-you-can-help/clothesline/find-a-clothesline-drop-box

Acceptance & Commitment Therapy

Acceptance Commitment Therapy

http://www.actmindfully.com.au/acceptance_&_commitment_therapy

http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/about_act

http://fhs.mcmaster.ca/cbs/act.html

樂在其中

你懂得人世間的遊戲規則嗎？ 
很多人做人都不快樂。無論在那一方面或多方面都很不快樂。

你試想一想。 魔鬼在地獄快樂嗎？快樂。但他在天堂中他就不快樂。 

天使呢？他們在天堂中會快樂但在地獄中就不快樂。 

什麼原因？原因在於他們是否能夠樂在其中。天堂又正氣又祥和，魔鬼鍾意攪攪鎮，當然去到天堂會周身唔自然。至於地獄？乜野骯髒都在，頭上有光環既天使又點頂得順。

同樣，你做人不快樂都是這個道理，因為你不懂得樂在其中。你不懂得享受人世間，你就自然不快樂。就正如天使不懂地獄混亂的樂趣，魔鬼不懂祥和的樂趣一樣。

人世間是什麼？如果你認為人世間的快樂建基於名利權，我相信你還不懂得人世間的道理，不懂得樂在其中。 

人世間最重要的事實是：沒有一樣東西是永恆，真係歌仔都有得你唱，如果你既快樂建築於這些不永恆的東西，你還是不懂得享受人世間的樂趣。你能夠身處於變化，不永恆的情境嗎？能夠享受到如露亦如電的電光火石的一生嗎？永恆的國度能給予你穩定不變的承諾，但變化卻能給予你不同的新體驗。要在穩定中找變化很難，同樣地，要在變化中找永恆一樣難。

人世間是什麼？你自己想想吧，找找吧。有一日，當你在什麼情況下還是笑面迎人，恭喜你，樂在其中。

Professional vs Layman

The difference between professional and layman is: curiosity.

三腳金蟾

今日，講風水。 

係地圖上，香港係成隻青蛙咁樣。頭係西環，腳係石澳，赤柱。手係香港仔。 

唔知你地有無聽過三腳金蟾？ 唔知？去http://zh.wikipedia.org/zh-hk/%E9%87%91%E8%9F%BE 

基本上三腳金蟾係貪婪既像徵。香港呢條命，似乎係一早注定。

另一個我

曾經唔知係邊度聽到一個心理學既現象。小孩子係會自我精神上分裂一個自己同自己玩，同自己傾偈。所以，有時我地見到小孩子自言自語就係咁解。當然，呢個都係恐怖片既好題材。

我細細個時，我唔知我有無自言自語，但係有一樣野我係好記得既。我記得我細個時，我係好相信係呢個宇宙既唔知邊度既一個星球上（細細個既我都幾科幻），有著同一個我存在（嘩！平衡空間概念）。雖然我地活在不同星球，但係，呢個另一個我同我share咗我既能力（能量轉送，互相轉移）。而另一個我係個星球上係好辛苦，因為？因為個個星球正在打仗，當然，另一個我都係度打緊仗，好危險，好辛苦。我試過係夢中去過佢個星球，見過佢，同佢傾過偈。我知佢好辛苦，好危險。

結果呢？結果查實好簡單。因為我地係 share 咗能力，所以，係地球既我要好好休息，瞓多Ｄ覺，補充體力。咁，佢係另一個星球既我就有氣有力繼續打仗。

就係咁多。

講下道理

好多宗教既修行絕對係非人既生活。那種無慾無求，濟世為懷既情操，真係唔係人既生活。

唔好講咁遠，我地做人能夠多一些理性，多一些自律就已經不得了。

無論在生活細節上，日常消費上，到社會問題上，人類，都處處顯出佢癡乜線既一面。

例子多到數唔到，好似用成隻勞力士既價錢買隻蘋果電子手錶。好似一對腳但係有一百對鞋。好似叫有人對國家有信心自己就送仔女移民。等等。

唔好講到咁high profile，人，做返一個合情合理既人已經好難得。

中國茶杯

40多年來，我就是不明白中國茶杯的道理。
大家都知，中國茶杯，細細隻，容量不多。要靠它解渴？死得，因為飲10杯都唔夠。同西人既水杯比，或者罐裝飲品比，中國茶杯輸晒。

近日，我先終於明白中國茶杯既精髓所在，是智慧既結晶。

先問，如果你臨瞓前一小時飲３杯水，你一定估到呢晚你一定無覺好瞓，因為你一定要去幾次廁所。

前日，我就去了朋友家作客，傾偈傾到很夜，其間不停飲清茶，用的是中國茶杯，飲的數量無20都有15杯（細細杯，我又多嘢講，因此杯不停）。因為實在太夜了，反家後，沖涼即瞓，但一整晚沒有上廁所。

小小的中國茶杯，可令你不停保充水份又唔會令你身體負荷太多。千年不變的事，個中總有其道理。

打劫

基本上任何政府都在不同程度下打劫人民。有的是偷，有的是騙，有的是強搶，種種手法層出不窮。

作為一個政府，作為一個政府內的人員，可得到的利益實在太大。大到連應有的道德都忘得一乾二淨。

政黨的輪交替其實是對市民在政治及利益上的輪姦。

想當初，人民受權政府就是付予一部分人權力去為市民服務。但在沒有有效控制下，政府就變成洪水猛獸，四處為害。

在沒有辦法打倒這隻怪獸之時，我們盡可能就是減少被免受到它的傷害。

傷殘

有一個外星人到地球探索。他的外形很像地球人，他同地球人最明顯的分別是他有三隻手。在探索途中因一次意外傷了其中一隻手。他跑到地球醫院求醫，但可惜傷勢太嚴重斷手救不了。


他痛哭，因為自此他只得兩隻手，從此成為了傷殘人士！

親愛的人類，你認為他是傷殘人士嗎？
兩隻手生活不到嗎？

世界上，究竟真的存在著＂傷殘＂還是存在著＂另一種生活方式＂？