生命就像編織一樣,用自己的手,一針一針的編織出自己的歷史。 Life is like knitting, we knit our history pin by pin.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Trading concept in Love
近日很喜歡聽陳慧琳的Lover's Concerto.
細看其歌詞,內中有一段是這樣的:
Now, I belong to you
From this day until forever
Just love me tenderly
And I'll give to you every part of me
歌詞中類似的意思在其他的英文歌都會看到。但在中文歌中是很少會看到的。
很有興趣,從歌詞中看來,感情像是一種貨物,可以用來交換似的。你給我這個,我就給那個。
在中文,感情事大都會用一些比喻去形容過去。很不直接。甚麼連理技,甚麼比翼鳥。就是不會直接把那種事情說出來。或是像西人般作貨物去買賣。
東西文化差異,在愛中亦表現出來。你的做法是東方人或是西人?
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
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Monday, August 25, 2008
聖經中的一點道味
在舊約聖經中有一故事是講述阿當及夏娃偷食禁果被逐出伊甸園。故事中,蛇對夏娃說,吃了禁果後,你便會如上帝般有分辨是非的能力。
故事大概是這樣。為什麼有分別是非能力是一件壞事?
我有一個故事大概是這樣的。
某甲,自小到大對食是沒有要求的,在他心中,食只是醫肚的一個行為。吃飽就去做自己喜歡的事。當他大了,取了一個下廚非常了得的老婆。當老婆問他想吃什麼,他只會答"是但就可以"。他說的是真心話,因為他從不對食物有要求。
月復月,年復年。有一天,老婆又問他想吃什麼,他就反問,這麼多年,你都知道我對食是沒有要求,你為什麼總是多此一問?
當然我們都會估到結局,老婆受了氣,那一餐不會有什麼好吃的。
吃了後,阿甲突然大叫,為什麼這止餸那麼難吃?老婆接住說,你不是對食物沒有要求的嗎?
阿甲聽完後,想了又想。突然對老婆說:我真的對食是沒有要求,這點你最清楚。這麼多年,我從不對你的餸有任何意見。但今天,當我第一次分辨到什麼是好,什麼是壞的時候,我開始變得有要求。我不再像以往那自然無為,現在的我,對食物是非常有要求。亦變成我煩惱的一個根源。
本來在無極中是沒有什麼對與錯,但無極一旦變為太極。是非,黑白,對錯立分。對立從此而生,煩惱亦從此而生。
然而,太極中不是說給我們知,陽中有陰,陰中有陽的道理。縱使分了對錯,世事也沒有全對及全錯。
Monday, August 18, 2008
Thursday, July 31, 2008
平衡
在很多篇文章中都提及平衡這一個概念,我相信平衡是我人生中的一個重要的信念。我很不喜歡破壞平衡,因此我不喜歡過激的意念和行動。
相對於極端,平衡是很難確定。事件的極端是很容易看到和理解。是與非,成與敗,生與死等。但甚麼是平衡。
用太極去演繹平衡亦不失一個好方法。太極其中一個要的信息是。
你不是你,我不是我,而是你中有我,我中有你。顧及自己亦顧及他人。兩極互相包容才是共存之道。
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
外星人做乜唔同地球人講野?
好多人都話有外星人,有些人甚至話見過飛碟及外星人。
假如真係有外星人,為乜佢地唔同地球人溝通呢?
照常理,比著你坐火箭去左第二個星球見到有生物,你好自然都去同仍地溝通下至係。
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Happiness
Recently I read a book about Happiness, I want to jot down some of the thinking about happiness from other people.
1. Life is full of happiness and unhappiness.
2. Positive and hope can give you energy to face the future but not sadness.
3. Don't focus on one thing to generate happiness for you. Try to invest into many things to obtain your happiness.
4. Keep yourself business will reduce unhappiness as you are being occupied.
5. Unhappiness can be prevented, when you foresee one, prevent it happened which will prolong your happiness.
6. Don't compare people with other people, particular yourself.
7. Happiness can be obtained in mother nature, try to find it.
8. 春有百花秋有月。夏有涼風冬有雪。若無閒事掛心頭。便是人間好時節。
9. You can always find a person who is more miserable than you.
10. Never give up in seeking for happiness, there is always in somewhere.
11. People who are miserable still living resolutely, can you find one?
12. Happiness needed to be seek for but not wait for.
13. Happiness is very easy to find, e.g. have a good meal, good sleep, good TV program.
14. Enjoy your hobby can bring you a lot happiness. Do you have one or some?
15. Admire can bring you happiness, do you have the capability to admire people, the world, and you?
16. Unhappiness is made by you, if you don't respect other, how can other respect to you?
17. No one has the duty to make you happy.
18. Contribution is a source of happiness.
19. Calm and peace is a source of happiness.
20. Find out your source of happiness, e.g. family, friend, and you won't fear of running out of happiness.
21. When you are free, you are happy.
22. Enjoy the rights to make your choice.
23. People will bring you unhappiness, but it is you to bring yourself happiness.
24. Your past experience can help you to cope with current happiness. What is your coping skills? Do you have an effective one?
25. Don't let other people to control your happiness and unhappiness.
26. Don't exaggerate any unhappiness.
27. One unhappiness doesn't mean all things are failed.
28. When you lost something, find out what you have obtain from the lost.
29. Let go the late people and hug the present one.
30. You lost something because you had gained.
31. You gain something and it will be lost.
32. We can predict everything, the answer is either fail or success. What you cannot predict is the process.
33. Enjoy the process instead of waiting for the result. There is no excitment at the end.
34. Thing will fail at last, so don't wait for the happiness in the end.
35. When you have tried your best, nothing should be regretted.
36. When you fail, you just only back to zero, nothing can lose more than zero. But you gain a lot during the whole process.
37. 當下
38. Happiness is looking into the future.
39. There is no such a person who did 100% wrong.
40. There is no such a person who only have 100% unhappiness, what you don't do is dig out the happiness.
41. In related in human issue, there is no 100% right or wrong.
42. Step into the other shoe and you will know the reason behind other people.
43. Happiness = feel good = find the balance how you balance your life.
44. Set a plan to create your happiness.
45. Change your plan in according to your ability and the enviornment.
46. Don't try to obtain happiness from your weakness.
47. 凡事不可強求
48. Is there a must for happiness in an event.
49. When in happy time, you have to be happy, when in unhappy time, you have to be unhappy. Don't hid your happiness and unhappiness or covered it by other issue, other people.
50. Be true to yourself.
51. Accept yourself as a human being, accept yourself will make mistake.
52. Happy is the result of an action but not wait for.
53. Do you know you have a choice of happy and unhappy.
54. You do anything with a reason behind and the other people may not know your reason and may reprimand you. Do you have to feel unhappy in this situation?
55. In this world, there is so many perspectives, how can we match or follow everyone perspectives? Just follow yours.
56. Help yourself when you are unhappy. Don't stay.
57. When you are unhappy, leave the unhappy enviornment and people and do something happy.
58. Let go the unhappy source and you will obtain happiness.
59. During the process of seeking happiness, you may obtain unhappy.
60. When the God gives you unhappiness, he wants you to work hard on happiness.
61. There are a lot of happiness around you, go to pick some.
62. Mental retard people, they can be happy. Blind and Deaf people they can be happy. Healthy people they can be unhappy.
63. Disable people can obtain Olympic award, healthy people can ruined his life.
64. Happiness come from bring happiness to others.
65. You cannot change other people perspectives, but yours.
66. Write down your happiness, recall it, share it and feel it.
Monday, July 07, 2008
Sunday, July 06, 2008
恐怖言論
物競天擇,適者生存。這個自然的道理,相信連現今的小孩童都明白。
在自然界中,老弱傷殘都會自然地被淘汰。就如生下來傷殘,特別弱小的小動物如羊,最後都會被獅子,老虎吃掉。容易得手嘛。
或是在羊與羊的競爭中被淘汰,如找不到草吃,喝不到水。自然地在競爭中死去。
對於被吃的小羊,當然不是一件快樂的事。但對於羊群而言,這樣的自然淘汰會使活存者都是優秀的一群。自然,他們的後代都會承受著優良的遺傳,羊群便踏著進化的步伐。
但若羊群中弱少老病的沒有自然地被淘汰,這將會增加羊群生存的壓力。若健康的羊還要照顧牠們,就會增加整體羊群的付擔。若老弱修殘要有下一代,對進化的步伐有著很大的挑戰。
能夠挑戰羊群進化的步伐,相信只有一個愛字。
族群對單一的愛而接受族群要面對的可見困境。然而,單一又應如何去表現對族群的愛呢?
這樣沒完沒了的拉鋸,都不知如何才停下來。
在腦裡,由這個問題引起很多要思考的問題,最直接的就是:個體與群體的關係。個人主義與集體主義等。自利利他的問題。運用高科技高醫療去延長壽命。應花費多少照顧老弱修殘。何謂無用之人。權利與義務等問題。
在此要收筆,因為要多動點腦力去思考,或是狂思考中發覺自己是阻手阻腳的一個,要被淘汰的一個。
Thursday, June 26, 2008
遇到問題時
遇到問題/困難時:
你可找一千個解決方法去處理問題,
亦可找一千個理由不處理問題。
客觀上而言,問題/困難未必一定能夠處理得到,
主觀上而言,找不處理的理由總是給人不好的感覺。
嘗試後失敗,總是最容易被人接受。
Monday, May 12, 2008
遊戲中學習
我們都聽過從遊戲中學習,意思大致是將從遊戲中學習到的技能及經驗用於日常生活中。
而從網上遊戲中乎習到的卻是人性,人際關係,甚至乎哲理。
遊戲是虛擬的,但玩者是真的,交談是真的,感覺感情是真的,關係是真的,人性是真的。從中帶出的事情及思考也是真的,當中的哲理也是真的。
網上遊戲打從開始的時候,以經被定為一無是處的物品。但若你對人性,心理有興趣的人,網上遊戲是一個擁有大量資料及數據的地方,並非真的一無是處。
若你喜歡組織及策劃,這裡也是一個好地方幫你學習,建立及營運團隊,學習組織工作。
這裡更是學習溝通的好地方,內容未必是真,但溝通技功卻是不假。你罵人,人家也會給你好看。
從溝通中更能乎習是非的真偽,學習如果選擇朋友,學習人性真面目。人生哲理也從中而出。
其實,只要留心在意,事事物物都是學習的好機會。坐巴士也能學到很多人性的事情。而網上遊戲擁有這幾方面的資源是大得你難以想像。
當然在學習背後,亦帶給你很多的快樂及成功感。這些快樂與成功感是你在日常生活中難以獲得到的。因為,在遊戲設計上,它不及真實世界那麼複雜。但人性溝通那一部份,卻一點也不少。
Friday, April 25, 2008
回歸到0
以前曾講過無敵的0。甚麼都沒有,甚麼顧慮都沒有那還有什麼好怕?
然而,從0到0之間亦是一件有趣的事。
從0到0,你可能經歷了很多不同的事事物物,當中你可能獲得很多或失去很多,或有很多次的得得失失。
人生於世上是0,甚麼也沒有帶來這個世界。離開時,亦是甚麼也帶不走,回歸於0。但這個0與0之間卻發生了很多事情。甜酸苦辣,生老病死。從0開始,你可能變成憶萬富翁,百子千孫,也有可能是低下階層,貧窮老倒,但無論你獲得幾多和失去幾多,到最後都係0。
既然,你是從0開始,最後亦必歸於0。而別人亦與你一樣由0至0。那麼,你現在還有什麼顧慮,有什麼好害怕?
你想過你的生活,還是過別人給你安排的生活?你要找憶萬又為何?還不是每天活得快樂來的實際。
我們的故事,開始和結局都一早一清二楚,亦是公平非常。亦無變化。我們不可改寫開始和結局,但內容卻是由我們負責。從今天起,你會如何寫你的內容?
Thursday, April 24, 2008
World War III
World War III
二次大戰後,世界都處於一個較平穩的局面。但唔講你唔知,第三次世界大戰已經開始左。今次的戰爭同以往的有少許不同。相同的同樣是為資源而戰,霸佔或控制所有資源(包括地球,人,思想等)。但不同的是今次戰爭的方式並非使用槍炮火箭,而是以經濟為武器,從經濟方面去侵略別的國家,略奪及控制別國的資源,金錢,勞動力等。雖然形式不是那麼血腥,但受苦的同樣悲慘。最大的戰爭受害者就是一般平民百姓。
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